Dear Deb,
My Mother-in-Law was talking to my husband (her son) and she said “I love you so much my heart aches for you.” What does that mean? He is an only child and his Mom and Dad are married but not happily married. My husband visits her every other day and she cries when my husband leaves. Please help me! Is she in love with him? Am I at a dead end in this relationship?
Pam
Dear Pam,
I’m sure that it must be frustrating for you to deal with the crying and the drama. When she says “I love you so much my heart aches for you” she is probably just expressing that her love for him is so strong that it hurts her. I’m sure she’s not “in love” with him like you are in love with him. Unfortunately, it sounds like she has no idea of your feelings in the matter.
It’s hard to win in this situation. If you complain to him, you’ll look like the bad guy. I’m sure your husband finds it hard to deal with his mother at times, too. Whatever you do, don’t put your husband down (even jokingly) in front of his family. Do your best to deal with this situation without jealousy.
Perhaps the time will come when you will have a family of your own, and then she can obsess over the grandchild.
Deb